the women. find your team.

Turning 42, and my fuck the wholesome week that was. You know it is insane to imagine life without half the people in it. I mean I was gifted bread, hand made bath salts, and so much magic.. The gifts that really make you emotional.

How did I get so fucking lucky.

At this table sat some of the most incredible women I had ever met.

I honestly looked around between beers, soaking in each of them. New friends. New meanings. New connections. All of them also just meeting.

It has always been about community. Connection.

Through scrolling Instagram in ICU, to just talking to people at events, circles I have attended alone to high school mates and work mates. I have been so blessed to be surrounded by magical people. Amazing women who all walk different lives. Each bringing with them magic. Stories. Advice. Experiences. Lessons.

Some women walk like a boss, others hiding in the shadow, others pretending like they have it together when they are falling back. Women escaping shitty situations, others exploring the open, and more than anything so many finding themselves.

Finding the women who ripple through them like a rollercoaster.

Find your tribe, the one that doesn’t judge your madness, and mess. The one’s that will laugh with you. cry with you, and hold your body up while you fall apart.

It is not about having all the friends, and all the things it about the quality. The absolute magic you feel in their presence.

Some people drain you, some understand you, some stomp you down when your screaming for help.

I have truly experienced it all, and let me be truly honest it was a blessing.

I have the most beautiful women in my life. Near. Far. The one’s that call once a year, the one’s that live around the corner, the one’s I have met through social media.

Age is just a number. Really.

The most important thing a women can do is have her friends. Get away with the people. Take the day trips. Have the dinners. The wild once a year chaos. The park hangs. The breaky dates.

Every season of your life your women change, some stay and some leave. Some you realise where never meant to hang around. Some will destroy you and there will be the ones you miss.

I have no hate for any of them, and as we age we grow, and our experiences shape us in different ways.

I use to feel so much guilt around friendships ending, but then I realised you can’t be everyone’s friend. We are honestly not meant to be, and some of those women taught me how to step away.

To everyone who’s ever walked beside me I thank you, and the ones I let go of thank you. You all meant so much to me. You have all left a mark in my heart.

From your hateful words, to gossip, and judgement. Thank you for what you didn’t know. If your still here watching. Why? Your safe to do your thing, while I do mine.

You will always have that handful of connections that no matter what day year or week it feels like no time has passed. Keep those ones. Keep those girls. Even if they are your once in a blue moon phone calls. Friendship does not require daily check in’s and endless connection.

It requires real connection.

I miss the old friends, and I can’t wait to arrange more girls trips that I can get to!

I adore the women I connect with and they all fucking inspire me. Each in their own way.

Sitting in my home I am excited that as my new chapter begins, I have been blessed with the most unique friendships here. Every day a message. So many ideas. So much happiness and deep conversations that explode my heart.

From attending all the school things, to making bread. To holding thermo parties, that end in energy healings and sound baths. Late afternoon conversations and cards by the beach. Booking bush doof tickets for you and the kids, to attending the race nights. Lazy mornings in the house, and walks by the ocean.

This chapter is wild…. I cant wait to see where it takes me…

Welcome back Ferris. It has been a hot minute.

Reminder: You will never be everyone’s cup of tea and that is ok. Speak to the strangers you just never know what could bloom. Do not hate on anyone. It is all a part of your story and regardless they all teach us something. Some are here for a long time others a short time. Step into your circle with every change. You will be a million different versions of you and everyone will know a different version of you! This is the beauty of life, and growth.